"FORBIDDEN "

" There is a charm about the forbidden that makes it unspeakably desirable." Mark Twain

What does forbidden mean? Is it a forbidden love? A forbidden fruit? A forbidden feeling that you want to express but are bound to secrecy? Do we really know and understand FORBIDDEN? What comes to your mind when you see the word forbidden?

I feel that I've experienced one or the other at some point in my life. The desire of wanting something that you can't have that very moment can become this overwhelming feeling of need that you don't realize that it's consuming every thought in your mind.

Let's begin with the definition of forbidden. Forbidden means something that is not allowed, that it is not permitted. We can look into this definition a little bit more in the scientific quantum kind of way. PHYSICS denoting or involving a transition between two quantum-mechanical states that does not conform to some selection rule, especially for electric dipole radiation. There you have it, a simple definition and then a more in depth definition of Forbidden .

One analogy that is usually always used is the Forbidden Fruit. We retain this from an excerpt from the bible where Eve is persuaded to eat the forbidden fruit. Her curiosity and just the mere fact that she was told not to eat it made the desire to do it even more intense. Of course, with the feeling of curiosity comes consequences. Most of the time, not the type that is positive and at some point you would need to pay the damages. Whether those damages are emotional or physical.

Now we can go into a forbidden love. What classifies a forbidden love? Well, we can use the example of Romeo and Juliet. There we have two lovers that are not allowed to be with each other as their families are rivalries. Yet these two lovers fall in love so deeply that they don't care what their families think or feel. Their love ends in tragedy but their love lived on. Let's go even further back to Cleopatra and Marc Antony, they loved each other so much that they led their countries into war. That is what they say, but still a great example of forbidden love. Looking back, none of these loves fall into the normalcy of what we consider natural love. Sometimes we need to look back and re-evaluate the cookie- cutter idea of what true love really is. True love is a spiritual connection to where the love is so effortless that you know this is your person, even if forbidden. You think to yourself, how can this be forbidden? Laws of nature and life make it this way; usually falling into wrong timing or unusual circumstances. Then, we have that forbidden love that you want to scream about it at the top of your lungs but you are sworn to secrecy. This may fall into a love that happens between two souls that were never meant to be, yet, they find each other in this life time but at the moment their love needs to be quiet, unspoken of. This type of love, I feel is the most hurtful, most painful and most unbelievably gut-wrenching that can happen. There is always hope that this love will flourish into something more than what it is. People always say patience and timing is everything. The hope never seems to go away. Who knows what the outcome of this type of forbidden love will come to.

So, what are your thoughts and feelings about a Forbidden Love? I would love to hear your opinions and thoughts about this blog. It came to me as I was watching the version Claire Danes and Leonardo DiCaprio version of Romeo and Juliet. Comment below, send me a message, email me, what ever is easiest for you.

Remember, to love yourself, love yourself first, it's up to you! ~~~Janet~~~